I love dating advice, absolutely love it. I would ask a stranger on the street for advice just to get an unbiased opinion. One thing I am SO VERY grateful for is my close circle of friends who are there to give me advice. I have two guys and two girls in my innermost circle, and all four of them are constantly bombarded with dating questions. I call them my Jedi Council, and am so grateful to them for putting up with my constant questioning. I feel so naive about dating when I talk to them though, which is essentially why I started this blog. I needed to track my journey, and my mistakes and successes, so I could learn from them. I am completely unfamiliar with the traditional dating "Rules" such as playing hard to get, pretending not to care, having standards etc. The list is endless of the things I have done wrong when it comes to romantic encounters, hence the blog title!
My Jedi Council consists of four, very differing points of view. My closest girlfriend and roomie, CE, is an ultimate pro at not only playing hard to get, but effortlessly being nonchalant. Nothing gets to this girl. Where as I over-think, over-analyze, and over-dissect every signal, text message, and encounter I have. It's actually why we have such good compatibility as friends, we come from the two farthest opposite ends of the spectrum. I am super neurotic, anxious, nervous, worried about anything AND everything. I second guess myself constantly and have known to be completely awkward more often than not. It just adds to my charm though, right? ;) CE on the other hand, could not be more different. She spent her entire college/early twenties as a single gal constantly being wooed by various gentleman callers. She was never a relationship person until this past year, when she started seriously dating a guy who pursued her hard enough that he wore down her guard, and now she's more committed than ever. Dating was just something that she never thought, let alone worried, about. She was a fun, care-free, spirited person who loved to be chased, but never allowed herself to be caught. She's the one who is teaching me how to play hard to get, a concept that goes against every grain of my being. She also plays a crucial role in keeping my sanity, and every day helps me keep things in perspective, when my nervous anxiety gets the better of me.
My second council member is the beloved CL, who, as I wrote earlier, is of a different culture entirely. We met in Europe, and she hails from New Zealand, so her perspective is very old-fashioned and proper. Two very important perspectives that I unfortunately do not have. CL has been chased her whole life too, and would never consider someone who did not woo her properly. Unlike me, both of these girls would never EVER go out of their way to chase a guy, or lower their standards because of a silly crush. I wish I was that way!
My third and fourth council members are CE's boyfriend and my boy roomie, both of whom offer me two different male perspectives on things. CE's boyfriend is a hopeless romantic, and is so over the top in his romantic gestures it is nauseating at times, but I've got to hand it to him, he knows how to woo. He also treats CE as the ultimate princess of life, and she deserves nothing but the absolute best. My guy roomie is on the other end of the spectrum, and is the ultimate ladies man. He is a serial dater and states openly and often how he does not want a girlfriend, he just wants to date very casually. Every weekend a new girl, most of whom I never see again. So he is the ultimate authority on guys, and the right way to act to get what you want. It's funny actually, he's really the guy version of CE, while I'm the girl version of her bf. It is really true, opposites attract!
I am so grateful that I do not have to go on this journey alone, and I am learning so much from these guys.
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